"Ten taboos to happiness " for the intelligent aged persons 一、不要再替成年子女操心，才不会碎碎念。 Don't be concerned about adult children any more,otherwise, cannot stop the annoying chatters. 二、不要再将成年子女当成未成年来「监护」，以免顾人怨。 Don't regard the adult children as of under age and serve as a guardian for them, so to avoid incurring complaints. 三、不必事事都「非知道不可」，尊重已成年子女的隐私权、自主权。 No necessary to know everything, pay respect to the privacy and the right of decision-making of adult children. 四、不要再以儿、孙为生活重心，寻找自己的园地，才不致天天望穿秋水。 Don't regard children and grandchildren as a center of life, look for personal social circles, so to avoid trapping yourself in the dilemma of anxious expectation and disappointment daily. 五、不要逢人就诉苦，宁可写作、画画、练功、唱歌,以艺术、创作升华情绪。 Raise a habit of writing, painting, exercising, singing to sublime your mood by arts and creation rather than complain to people coming across. 六、不要凡事抱怨，多欣赏、感谢别人为取悦你所做的努力。 More admiration, less complaints and appreciate what other people have Done for pleasing you. 七、不要因孙辈和子女媳婿争执冲突，这样只会恶性循环，害了你的孙辈。 Don't involve in the dispute between grandchildren and adult children, this act just causes adverse effects in a bad circle and hurt your grandchildren. 八、不要因病痛而唉唉叫，有病要治病，领了药要服药，治不好的要忍耐。 Don't cry over sickness, just go to see a doctor and take the necessary medicalpills as prescribed, and be patient if failed to cure. 九、不要疑心病太重，要感激还愿意留在你身边的人，免得最后连他也走了！ Don't be skeptical to others too much, be grateful to the person who left around you, otherwise, he will go away from you too eventually. 十、要多多培养宗教情操，有坚定的信仰，对未来抱着开心、乐观的态度。 Participate in religious activities often, be stick to belief and take pleasant,optimistic attitudes toward the future.